Do not ever just "drop by". CALL FIRST. Never, EVER, EVERRRRR show up at my door wanting to hang out without calling first, or I will probably begin to hate you very quickly. My house is my safe place! My shining bubble of peace! The place where I do not have to be seen or heard or see or hear! CONTROL OVER THE SAFE PLACE IS SACRED. DO NOT VIOLATE THE SAFE PLACE.
I don't understand why anyone does this! It boggles my mind! That there could be people out there that think showing up at someone's home unannounced is an acceptable thing to do! I assume it is because they, too, have people show up at their house unannounced and it doesn't bother them at all! WHICH MEANS IT'S LIKE THEY ARE OF AN ENTIRELY DIFFERENT SPECIES. THEY DO NOT THINK LIKE EARTH PEOPLE.
Unless your arm is off and you need me to take you to the hospital or to call 911, or you have had sudden dire finance implosion and have no way of contacting me whatsoever and you want to let me know that, you do not "drop by". The only way this is even vaguely acceptable is if you left something at my house or you need to drop something off, but you should at least call on the way if it's in any way possible, or have let me know that you'll be by sometime today, or SOMETHING.
(Also omg "the trap" ahaha, her bird-like head-swivel! HAVE YOU TRIED THE VEGAN SOYBEAN SHAKE YOU CANNOT ESCAPEEEEE)
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OH MY GOD SO MUCH THIS D8 I do not comprehend!
(That entire post is so true, oh my god.)
Also, since I apparently forgot yesterday (I r smart), I hope you had a very happy birthday ♥
And thanks ♥ (I am amazed at how many people have been noticing my birthday this year and feeling guilty that I pretty much never remember anybody's. :Oa)
I will not lie; twitter is the only reason I remembered. I'm terrible with birthdays without outside help. But I still hope it was awesome. ♥
Being half extrovert, half introvert, I can understand wanting to see people randomly, but f'goshsakes, that's why we've got cell phones, text messaging, and IM.
Either that, or perhaps we can enforce a minimum time spent as a scarecrow for those who drop by unannounced before they're allowed to come in?
My sister is one of these people who expects her friends to be available to her at any time and gets very distraught when she calls them and they don't answer the phone or won't come over and hang out with her. And, well, I guess that works for her and her friends, but I just cannot comprehend it. PRE-ORGANIZED SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS. GIVE ME AT LEAST A FEW HOURS, AND YOU HAVE TO ASK FIRST, AND I HAVE TO SAY YES, AND I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO IF I WANT. I need my anti-social time.
Omg your description of your sister is like, WORST NIGHTMARE. Anyone who wants to know me has to respect my boundaries. My 5ft thick, made-of-lead boundaries.
To me, it's boggling that even extroverts could feel okay with this. Even extroverts have bad days, and get sick, etc., and just need a day to lay around in pajamas with their hair uncombed, not having to be nice to anyone.
Edited 2010-09-03 04:46 pm (UTC)
I can understand how certain people or cultures can be accepting of this, but I am literally one of those people who jumps up and runs to the window and peers out between drawn shades terrified, when I hear a vehicle drive past my house. This neurotic act is either followed by a huge sigh of relief if the vehicle continues or a panic attack if it pulls in the drive. (I have been known to just.not.answer.the.door. as well and pretend I am not home from time to time).
I feel that if a person actually knows you, this includes your social boundaries-- if they are claiming to be your friend or even close acquaintance then they should respect those boundaries.